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I actually think this was pretty responsible. Rather than banning it outright, which would result in kids wanting to rebel even more, she offers it in her home where she can control the amount people drink. Good on ya, Mrs George. You’re a cool mom.

WH?? ????? ?? 

THERE’S NOTHING RESPONSIBLE ABOUT GIVING UNDERAGE PEOPLE ALCOHOL YOU DUNDERFUCK

i think its better having your teenager at least know what to expect when you drink than letting them drink away from home with the varibles of danger such as drunk driving being a possibility. my mother used to let me sip her margaritas cause thats what she drank at parties and it looked fun and tasty. one sip and my tongue may as well have shriveled up so none of that shit for me thanks. you live you learn

or they can wait until they’re 21 to drink and try it then??? holy shit

yeah cause in this day and age of peer pressure and shit, thats what a 16 year old at a party is going to do

Dude my mom let me have a glass of wine with dinner if I asked for it since I was like 12 and I rarely did it anyway because I learned that if I had more than one I got a fierce headache.

That was good information for me to know I found out how alcohol was going to affect me under parental supervision and it wasn’t a huge forbidden thing to hide and do in secret in excess just to see how much I could get away with.  I don’t drink at all now.  

Yeah.  I’ve been drinking since I was 16.  My parents would let me have a glass of champagne at New Year’s and on special occasions.  My mother would almost frequently let me have pina coladas and margaritas during the summer.  Because of that, I didn’t feel the need to go out and party hard once I hit 21.

You know, drinking with parental/legal guardian consent is legal.  Even out in public, Tomithejellyfish.

Yeah exactly.  My parents let me have small glasses and I’d like drink half.  I think I only asked for it at christmas or if my grandparents were over.

12/13 sounds a bit young and I/my fam will probably get shit for that, but we’ve done this for generations and I don’t have a single alcoholic in my family. 

Every night at dinner my dad offers us all a sip of his beer (or wine, depending), and he’s done it since I was about twelve as well (which would make my brothers eleven, ten, and nine - just for reference). We all said yes at one point, and after just a taste, we all turned it away. I mean, do you think most parents would actually allow their kids to drink more than what’s healthy for them? They’re giving you a chance not only to experience the temptation of alcohol early, and pass it by, but to let you feel like a grown-up. It’s extremely responsible.

To add onto this, there’s also the huge thing with teenagers where if you ban it, they want it. My mom has told me that if I want alcohol, I can have it as long as I don’t leave the house. If I wanted to try marijuana, she said to tell her and she could get some for me.

Number one: this showed me that my mom trusted me to not do these things on my own

Number two: it completely destroyed any want for either of these things

Parents know what they’re doing when they let their kids try these things at home. It’s a psychological thing, because teenagers are naturally rebellious. If we can’t have it, we want it. If we can have it, we don’t want it.

And in a lot of states, as long as you don’t leave your house, your parents are allowed to give you alcohol. You just can’t leave your property. I’ve had wine coolers and beer and mixed drinks in my house. Granted, the only one of those I’ve even remotely LIKED so far was wine coolers, but that’s because alcohol is fucking nasty.

TDLR: parents giving their kids alcohol in the home is not a bad parenting practice, it’s fucking smart.

My favorite story ever was my first experiences with weed and alcohol. 

With booze, my mother brought me in to the living room. I was about 14 at the time. It was just the two of us kickin’ it that day, watching movies and such. She asked me if I wanted to have some wine. I said sure, so she poured my a glass. She said I could have as much as I want, but I couldn’t leave the house. Needless to say, I got smashed. From then on, drinking has become a very inconsistent thing for me because I don’t like getting REALLY smashed (though I do get carried away every now and then). I know what my limits are and I was never really tempted to drink while going through high school because of this.

The better story here was the weed one though. My mother brought both me and my sister in to the living room, sat us down and took out a pipe stuffed with weed. At first I thought it was my sister’s based on how terrified she looked. Then my mom said to us, “I like smoking weed. I think it can be relaxing and helpful in moderation and it is not something that should be looked at as unholy or overly taboo. If you want to, you can smoke weed, but I would rather you do it with my weed in the safety of our home where I know it is safe then out there where I know it is not. Now who would like the first hit?”

When parents take these kinds of things and show them to their kids at a younger age, and more importantly when they give their child the OPTION to try it in a safe and controlled environment, they’re less likely to rebel and do it recklessly. With weed, I wouldn’t dare give that to anyone over the age of 16 or so, but that’s a whole different story.  Society has made so many things overly taboo to such a point that we’re ashamed of them. Sex, drinking, etc. There’s nothing inherently wrong with these acts at all, we’ve just been brought up to think that they’re things we shouldn’t do and if we do partake in them before a certain age, we need to feel ashamed for doing so. Fuck that noise. The only thing to be ashamed of is doing those things irresponsibly. Having a parent trust you enough to actually teach you and give you the opportunity to try these things in a safe place? That’s ideal in a lot of different ways.

Anyways, point being that showing your kids what its like to drink at a younger age can actually help a great deal with your relationship further down the line. This builds a sense of trust and opens the doors to your child being more open and honest with you. They’re less likely to rebel or get carried away (Again, everything in moderation. Don’t let em get super blitzed, but hey. Every now and then with fam is alright). Yelling at them over trying alcohol only makes them more likely to rebel against you and drink it anyways. Scolding someone over stuff like that will only serve to further the gap between you, imo. Everything in moderation. They say knowledge is power for a reason.

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What if one of the most important street photographers of the 20th century was a 1950s children’s nanny who kept herself to herself and never showed a single one of her photographs to anyone?

Decades later in 2007, a Chicago real estate agent and historical hobbyist, John Maloof purchased a box of never-seen, never-developed film negatives of an unknown ‘amateur’ photographer for $380 at his local auction house.

 

John began developing his new collection of photographs, some 100,000 negatives in total, that had been abandoned in a storage locker in Chicago before they ended up at the auction house. It became clear these were no ordinary street snaps of 1950s & 60s Chicago and New York and so John embarked on a journey to find out who was behind the photographs and soon discovered her name: Vivien Maier.

 

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